Everyone thinks that, as the oldest brother, I should be the one to voice our concerns about her. Would it be too drastic to tell him it’s a bad idea? I was going to say I support him if he can find three redeeming qualities in her because none of us can find one.

Would it be too drastic to tell him it’s a bad idea? I was going to say I support him if he can find three redeeming qualities in her because none of us can find one. -- NO FAN OF HER IN THE EAST DEAR NO FAN: I do not think telling your recently engaged brother that his fiancée is the “worst of all time” and no one in the family can find any redeeming qualities in her would be welcomed.

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